respect the no

I have this friend that says "no" all the time.  People ask her to commit to things and she gives an honest, "I can't, I just don't have the time."  She has her priorities set and she won't let anything impede on them.  Could she squeeze in a few more commitments?  Probably.  In her mind, she's got enough so why throw more on her plate to ultimately disappoint herself and others?  I can not begin to express how much I admire her for just saying "no".  The beauty of her "no" is that when she does agree to something, you know you are going to get her full commitment.  No halfsies.

I recently had someone ask me to commit to something.  I told her I couldn't because I already have enough on my plate.  She said, "We're all busy but, this is important.  I made time."  Ummm, what?  I think we need to accept that a "no" isn't personal.  Its just a truth.  Yes, we're all busy.  Everyone's busy should be created equal and not judged upon.

No matter how many times someone posts it on Facebook or Pinterest, there IS a glorification of busy and I really don't think its going to stop.  Truth be told, I don't mind being busy.  If the busy is on my own terms and I know that I made conscious decisions to make my schedule what it is.  Its when things get out of hand that makes me crazy lady.  Most likely, that's because I let someone guilt me into changing my "no" to a "yes".  So I'm saying lets just respect the "no" and not make it personal.

Just like my daughter who makes a conscious decision to say "no" to cleaning her room and instead chooses to watch tv.  



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